by Portia of huneybflyy.com (pictured above)
The beauty of black hair is that there are so many amazing different textures. No two natural ladies will ever have the same head of hair. Over the course of my natural hair journey, I’ve seen black women who have natural waves, tight coils, kinks, kinky coils, springy ringlets and everything in between. They’ve blown it out, worn it straight, curled it, crimped it and set it. They’ve done it all and worn it all. It’s beautiful seeing that there is such a variety of hair within my own race.
I am an African American woman. Of course I’m not sure if I am 100% African, but I know I’m not bi-racial as my parents are both African American and so are their families. I don’t look exotic and my features are not unique. Naturally, I have kinky curls that go every which way. Typically, I wear twist outs and it’s sort of become my signature look. I also wear roller sets and sometimes, I will let my hair kink up without a curl in sight. I consider my hair to be beautiful no matter what kind of curl or kink I may be sporting. I take pride in knowing that I am a black woman and my hair is beautiful in its own way.
So, when someone asks if I’m mixed, it doesn’t sit well with me. It’s almost as if they are asking me because they can’t believe that someone, who is black could have a beautiful head of hair. Surely, I must be mixed with something. A few months ago I was in the hallway at work speaking to a co-worker. Another fairly new co-worker walked by and said hello. We’ll just call her Jane. Later that day, the co-worker I had been speaking to told me that Jane asked her if I was mixed. When my co-worker told her I wasn’t, Jane was shocked. Meanwhile, I’ve seen and said hello to Jane several times before, but that day was her first time seeing my natural hair free. When I met her, I was wearing braids as a protective style and she never asked that question.
How do you feel when asked if you’re mixed?
Portia is a wife and mother who enjoys making things and people look pretty! As a graduate of Rowan University, Portia has an insatiable craving for natural hair, beauty, and fashion, but she also enjoys traveling and home decor. If you’d like to know more about her, visit her blog at huneybflyy.com